ESFJ Personality Type | The Charmer | ESFJ A | ESFJ T
You know you’re an ESFJ when:
- You enter into a flow state when you focus on connecting with the outer world and being a positive influence for others
- You are equally fascinated and terrified by the thought of taking on responsibility and a position of importance
- You tend to jump from thing to thing in order to avoid overstimulation and to protect yourself from responsibility
- You become stressed by being held to critical standards
The ESFJ Personality Type is a highly interpersonally minded individual. You are at your best when working with or for people and humanitarian goals. You want to feel that you are making a positive impact on others. As an ESFJ, you can become stressed by thinking about problems and obstacles. There can be problems laying in wait in the future that need to be addressed. It’s easy then to just have an optimistic, can do attitude. But it can be equally rewarding to work through the stress and address Introverted Thinking first hand.
The ESFJ personality type is highly motivated by taking on responsibility and duties for the sake of others. They like to find practical ways and roles they can take on to make things easier for others. They like having areas of expertise where they can contribute, things that give them a sense of importance. They can at the same time become overwhelmed by this, and can feel a desire to run away or escape from responsibilities if things become too demanding. Then, they may go into Extroverted iNtuition, which provides them with fresh escape and perspectives. This can provide balance and comfort, but can also take away from their sense of self worth over time.
ESFJ Eight Functions
Extroverted Feeling can drive the ESFJ to a state of pure passion and optimism, a state where they can engage with people in a fun and interpersonal and informal manner. They like being where people are and having a positive influence on others. They like to set a goodexample.
Introverted Sensing provides the ESFJ personality type with a healthy dose of responsibilities and duties that push them to be more organized and structured and to think practically for the sake of other people. This function does however require them to go out of their comfort zone, which can be scary for them – what if they blow it or do something irresponsible?
Extroverted iNtuition is a function that provides the ESFJ with a sense of relief. This function allows them to escape from responsibilities for a moment to focus on easy and ever changing variation. New things keep them on their toes and are relatively easy to manage for this type, but provide them with no lasting meaning or value.
This function allows them to critically examine themselves and their own relationships, and to make sure that they are resolving important issues and problems and being realistic about a situation or person. But that’s stressful and scary to do for this type!
Introverted Feeling pushes Extroverted Feeling to talk with more attention to nuance and depth. To speak authentically and to represent yourself honestly and vulnerably to other people. This is slightly unnerving and difficult to do as an ENFJ, but also highly rewarding, driving a sense of meaning and significance.
Extroverted Sensing provides you as an ESFJ with a fun recreational pursuit that can give you some energy. It helps you get in touch with your inner child. The part of you that just likes to have fun and enjoy the moment and tune out of responsibilities and other people for a second.
Introverted iNtuition can drive a sense of anxiety and discomfort in the ESFJ. It can represent an unknown and scary possibility you don’t want to think about. It’s easy to focus on fun and optimism, but these thoughts are also important to sometimes confront, so they don’t become a glaring blindspot in your life.
Extroverted Thinking is a function that allows the ESFJ to manage their own relationships in a more objective and formal manner. Sometimes it’s important not to just joke and have fun and connect with others, but also to address responsibilities and practical demands and expectations together.
The Dominant Subtype
The ESFJ when most confident is a passionate speaker who motivates groups and people to work together, building bridges and creating a harmonious and fun atmosphere. They’re in this very driven space of pushing for their dreams and what they believe in even if other people say it’s impossible or that it’s not going to work out. Many might think they’re naive or too optimistic, but their approach gets them forward in life and helps them accomplish cool projects that inspire people as a whole.
The Creative Subtype
The ESFJ Creative subtype is one that is constantly challenging themselves to build discipline and to push themselves to meet external responsibilities. This is scary for them, as these situations require them to be more professional and organized and disciplined, to meet deadlines and finish what they start. But it also helps them build many healthy habits and to accomplish a lot of different results, managing many positions in organizations, and holding up the community.
The Balanced Subtype
This subtype is more focused on quick and easy projects that require less commitment. That allows them a changeable and varied lifestyle that keeps them on their feet, thinking quickly about what to do next. But it provides less gratification and less sense of accomplishment.
The Turbulent Subtype
This subtype is more careful with what they say, containing their passion and optimism and thinking more critically about how they influence other people. They are more careful not to make mistakes or say anything that is wrong, or to get too far ahead of themselves in their dreams. While they might want to dream big, they will easily get demotivated here and fear failure or disappointment.