Love for the Truth
“I am going to learn everything about everything!” I announced to my teacher as a young child. “That is not possible,” he answered. For years, I treated intelligence as proof that I had value. My ego told me I already knew the answers, predicted the future based on neat theories, and refused to admit when I was mistaken. It was the main gatekeeper standing in the way of my learning. Loving the truth is not about always being right; it is the humility to let reality correct you.
Reality is always a better teacher than your ego. A mistake is not a failure; it is reality showing you what is actually true.
Erik Thor, Why I Care
The Trap of Intellectual Pride
Forty-two digits of pi
When a classmate proudly told me he had memorized thirty digits of pi, I spent the entire afternoon memorizing forty-two digits just to show him up. When I recited them the next day, he blocked me. He was right to be upset: I had not cared about pi at all, only about proving superiority. Arrogance does not lead to understanding; it keeps you from seeing reality as it is.
Invested in the project, not the idea
During an architectural review meeting at work, a senior colleague interrupted and disproved a design I had spent hours preparing. My first instinct was defensiveness. But as I took a breath, the tension dissolved: I realized I was not invested in my own pride, I was invested in the project working. That shift changed everything.
Telling My Audience the Truth
For years, my YouTube channel focused on personality theories. Hundreds of thousands of people watched my videos looking for simple labels and explanations.
Over time, I saw how easily those theories became rigid boxes. People used personality acronyms to justify bad habits, judge their partners, and limit their own potential. I realized that human beings are far richer, more fluid, and more complex than any four-letter code could capture.
I had a choice: keep producing what the algorithm favored and collect safe views, or speak honestly about what I had learned.
I sat down and made a video telling my audience that personality types are not fixed realities—they are just surface descriptions. Many viewers were upset. Some unsubscribed. But telling the truth felt like stepping out of a cage. You cannot build a genuine life on half-truths designed to please an audience.
“Truth is bigger than you, and bigger than any theory. When you step outside of your own intellectual pride, real wisdom begins.”
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Truth Over Being Right
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