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ENFP Dating: Are ENFPs Flirty?

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ENFP ROMANCE. A popular ENFP stereotype is that ENFPs are players and that ENFPs flirt with just about anything that moves. Many also claim that ENFPs find it hard to "settle down" and that they always on the look for the next partner. Today we investigate if there are truths behind the ENFP dating stereotypes.

ENFP Dating - Are ENFPs Always Looking For The Next Partner?

The popular idea is that ENFPs struggle in relationships because they easily become bored with their partners and because they always feel the grass is greener on the other side. The idea is that Extroverted iNtuition creates the character of someone who always craves novelty.

I take issue with the popular ENFP stereotype because I've found that Extroverted iNtuition can just as well be brought into a stable, long-term relationship. While indeed, you could find yourself constantly looking for "the next adventure"... You could also use Extroverted iNtuition inside a loyal partnership to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.

There are often more opportunities to a long-term partnership, that you can't find in short-term flings and restless ENFP dating. If you are an ENFP dreaming about getting a house, a car. Do you want to go on a three month vacation together with The One? This is not going to be possible with someone you just met on Tinder. Long-term dating has many opportunities short-term dating just doesn't provide. After a while, short-term flings can start to feel empty and meaningless. Why would an ENFP want to date someone if they didn't feel like it was serious and meaningful? ENFPs hate missed or lost opportunities.

Read more: The ENFP Love Languages

https://www.erikthor.com/2020/04/19/the-16-personalities-love-languages/

Dating an ENFP

I think it's important for any partner of an ENFP to try their best to keep up with the pace of an ENFP. If you are too slow to change and grow with the ENFP, your ENFP may start feeling dissatisfied with the relationship. Dating an ENFP requires an ability to show enthusiasm and curiosity to the ideas and whims of your ENFP.

ENFP dating is a blessing if you want to change and have many rich new experiences in your life. ENFPs can present you with many opportunities to rise and grow as a person. You do not have to go along with every idea an ENFP has immediately when it comes up. Just showing a long-term commitment to realising the dreams and wishes of an ENFP is enough.

Your ENFP will be happy with even small progress or small steps along the way. As long as they know you are trying and doing your best. An ENFP can find long-term relationship satisfaction with a fun and quirky partner that is able to change and grow with you.

Check out my video on ENFP Dating and ENFP Romance

The ENFP Flirt?

THE ENFP FLIRT. Another idea is that ENFPs are very flirtatious and that ENFPs enjoy playful romantic dialogue. I would say this is true to the ENFP A, but not the ENFP T. The ENFP T is far more likely to second guess themselves and more careful with how and who they talk to.

What I see in the ENFP T is that, while they do want romance and relationships, they want to make sure that they commit to the right idea or right person. The ENFP T is also very self-conscious about how they come across and want to avoid giving off the wrong signals. However, I could see a dominant, confident ENFP being very flirty indeed.

An ENFP A may explore many romantic opportunities at the same time and could even be quite promiscuous. However, don't forget that ENFPs are also known for Introverted Feeling which means they have quite a lot of sensitivity to other people. As an ENFP, you want to show everyone respect and care.

ENFPs want people to feel heard and listened to. You would not want someone to string you along or flirt with you only to later on give you a cold shoulder. You would also not like to do the same to someone else. Perhaps you made this mistake when you were younger. But you quickly learned from it. Because Introverted Feeling types don't like to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. It would just not feel right.

Do you agree about the idea of ENFPs as flirts? Let me know in the comments below.

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2 comments on “ENFP Dating: Are ENFPs Flirty?”

  1. It is so true that people think I flirt with them when I am just me. Some people approach me because what I do accidentally makes them think I like them. That forces me to shut them off entirely because I then get scared. The only one person I let myself get close to is my INFJ. He lingered around. I felt safe being myself around him. I didn't even know he liked me until time passed. Once I realized he loved me, I can't live without him anymore, and it's scary as well because I had never thought I would ever commit to anyone. After thinking about it for some time, I decided to let myself be vulnerable and loved by him. That is the best decision I have ever made.

  2. It is so true that people think I flirt with them when I am just me. Some people approach me because what I do accidentally makes them think I like them. That forces me to shut them off entirely because I then get scared. The only one person I let myself get close to is my INFJ. He lingered around. I felt safe being myself around him. I didn't even know he liked me until time passed. Once I realized he loved me, I can't live without him anymore, and it's scary as well because I had never thought I would ever commit to anyone. After thinking about it for some time, I decided to let myself be vulnerable and loved by him. That is the best decision I have ever made.

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